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Are you ready to go down the rabbit hole? To visit a surreal world, where black is white and white is carrots?

A friend, Metacognician in Shanghai, describes the situation as follows: “Life is more absurd than movies. I've gone down the rabbit hole too, when it just becomes more and more strange and you wonder how that all is supposed to make sense.” I asked him if I should just embrace it. He answered, “Why should you ... change the universe?”

It started with a psychotic named Jim Kiraly who resides, we think, at 6329 Twinberry Circle, Avila Beach, California.

Jim Kiraly is a respected citizen. A churchgoer. A Vice President of Transamerica Corporation. And a violent abuser who tried to use an emergency anti-violence measure, one intended to protect battered women, to stop his victim in a wheelchair from writing a book.

Concise enough? :)

For attorneys: Jim Kiraly filed for CLETS against his son and victim, who lived 200 miles away, did not own a car, and was in a wheelchair. His son and victim was not asked to end communications. Jim had no (zero) specific and relevant allegations that were not perjury. But he turned down repeated offers of no-contact and a signed stipulation that gave him everything but CLETS. He insisted on CLETS if his victim ever once “discussed” him with third parties.

In the end, Jim Kiraly signed an agreement far weaker than the ones he'd been offered.

A review of Court paperwork and other materials will tend to confirm that Jim and other parties, including attorneys on all sides, committed multiple felonies, crimes, and faux pas. :P

The word “abuser” is stated here publicly and without equivocation. A formal offer is hereby made to reaffirm the word in writing and under oath. Attorneys will understand the significance of the point. In short, there is little terror of a threatened defamation suit on this side. Actually, we feel that such a suit will fit nicely up Jim Kiraly's abuser ass.

Jim has one son, Ken Kiraly, who invented the Amazon Kindle and is one of the leads at Amazon's secret Lab126. Another son, Tom Kiraly is one of the leads, a Vice President-CFO type, at medical insurance firms, including one of the largest, Humana Corporation.

These people and some of the biggest names in Silicon Valley legal circles have committed or are involved in multiple crimes.

For the next decade or two, we're going to explore the crimes that these people committed, the motivations and the denial involved, the background and histories that led each person to make the choices that they did, and ways to build upon what happened and move towards positive societal goals.

There's plenty to go over. These people committed or were involved in: Spousal abuse, child abuse, DDOS (a highly prosecutable violation of CFAA), extortion, perjury, conspiracy to commit perjury (a possible felony), false police reports, conspiracy to file false police reports (a possible felony), unlawful threats, barratry, defamation, malpractice, civil harassment, criminal harassment, abuse of process, and violations of SCCBA Professional Standards.

The point was to force Jim's oldest son and victim, me, to sign a gag order. I was in a wheelchair. I'd never made a single inappropriate threat against my abuser. I wasn't even asked to not to call anybody. But Jim threatened to put me in a violence database unless I agreed never to write about him.

I won the right to write, but I lost my home of 25 years, most of my possessions, my chances for retirement, everything. Everything but a realization.

I can make a difference. I can conduct research for legitimate and reasonable purposes, document what happened, and analyze the choices of the people involved:

Maggie told me that she didn't know what she could say to me about what happened. However, we have decades to work it out. It will be productive. I'd like to direct the attention of attorneys and other parties to the:

Legitimate and Reasonable Purposes List

Questions or comments are welcome. For technical notes and disclaimers, click here.

Free Downloads

The current free ebook is located at this link:

For details about the ebook, click here.

The point? “The story is already out there, idiots. Keep it up and I'll demonstrate how something known as decentralized distribution works.”


Thursday 2012-11-29 — Letter to my attorney

121129. This is another letter to my attorney.

Thanks for your note today. We'll discuss your points about the deposition of my mother, Grace Kiraly, later. For now, I'll speak about other issues.


Last week, you indicated that I should write a declaration related to employment. Indicate what I should say and I'll write this now.


You said, “If you read that response you will see a clear rejection of their primary overreaching: that they want you to not contact a large list of people never covered by the CLETS.”

Not clear enough. The “overreaching” went further. Nothing similar to a document of that type will be accepted.

You are directed to reject provisions for conversion to CLETS, financial penalties, removal of website content, anything that refers to “discuss” or “contact” with third parties not already covered, and anything that refers to “follow” or “gather information”, including the involvement of other parties for the purpose of research.

Additionally, you are directed to reject anything that extends the scope of the initial orders unless you feel it is something worth discussing.

Regarding Michael Bonetto's demands to take down websites: Content will not be removed based on demands. He is free to point out factual errors. Domain names are a separate matter. I feel that it may be best to address domain names during civil litigation, Bar Association actions, or state-level actions against Michael or Hoge Fenton.

I have demands of my own. We've discussed them.

These remarks don't overreach. Both you and Michael are aware that the Kiraly Cases are unusual.


I absolutely intend to do many of the lawful and appropriate things that Michael Bonetto of Hoge Fenton seeks to prohibit. Additionally, I'll do so for years regardless of the outcome of Long Cause.

Mechanisms will include lawful and appropriate phone calls, conventional mail, electronic mail, static websites, dynamic weblogs, and social media; including but not limited to YouTube videos. People familiar with social media who are interested in anti-abuse projects are invited to assist with social media projects or to quote prices.

If I understand you (my attorney) correctly, no judge could bar lawful and appropriate research related to anti-abuse projects, biographies, litigation, etc., and most would not attempt to do so.

The Kiralys have already lost.


In late 2011, I asked my parents to help with the writing of a book. This included my father, James Kiraly of Pismo Beach, California. Formerly Vice President of Transamerica Corporation. A model citizen. And an abuser.

I'd like to be clear. I'm not saying “alleged abuser” or using weasel words like “I feel James was abusive” in this context. I'm stating publicly here that James Kiraly was an “abuser”. Emotionally and physically violent.

James Kiraly was somebody who used to literally shake with rage. It was quite a sight. Somebody who tore up plants. Smashed objects. And people.

Even under normal conditions, James wasn't much fun. He was especially controlling towards his wife Grace Kiraly. As one example, Grace wanted to be a vegetarian. But James liked meat. So Grace had to pretend to eat it.

There are interesting stories about James's controlling behavior. I've told you (my attorney) a couple of the stories. I should talk more openly about things. The stories will be instructive for people who are interested in how abuse works.

You've cautioned me to beware of “defamation” suits. If James Kiraly wishes to file false and fraudulent “defamation” suits, I'll be pleased to respond. As a technical note, I believe James is aware that witnesses are still alive.

The book wasn't intended to be negative. But James Kiraly went to the police circa the next business day after the request was made. As I understand it, based on discussions I had with the police later on, James had no basis for a complaint of any type and nothing was done. I never even heard from the police until I phoned them myself about filing criminal charges against James.

James Kiraly lied about the incident subsequently. Note for attorneys: I'm not saying “I feel that James lied”. Let's be clear again. I'm stating that my father lied. In short, I've got a violent obsessive abuser and liar as a father and he's trying to bankrupt me to stop a book. Disrupting my efforts to find employment and deal with physical illness.

It's loads of fun.

Regarding the factual nature of these assertions, I invite people to review the evidence as I post it over time.

As I understand it, James Kiraly fumed about the matter for months. He contacted others and urged them “don't be afraid” to give him something that he could use to “prosecute Bob”.

But there was nothing.

In Spring 2012, I called a church with my mother's permission. Scheduled an interview more than a week in advance. Spoke pleasantly with Pastor Ron about the nature of a Christ Follower. That's where one of my domain names comes from. James seems to be claiming that I called Pastor Ron to discuss James's past history as an abuser. Nothing of the sort happened. Later on, after James filed false and fraudulent CLETS actions, the church offered me support.

James Kiraly assembled a set of false allegations based on the church call and similar incidents. Then he hired Michael Bonetto of Hoge Fenton to suppress the book.

Michael couldn't find a way to stop the book directly. He filed CLETS actions instead. If I understand correctly, actions of this type are generally used to protect battered women etc. who are in danger.

There is some irony in the situation. The accused, myself, was never violent. He was the one who got knocked to the floor. Or chased out of the house half-naked. James Kiraly, the key plaintiff, is the most violent person in the Kiraly family. Thomas Kiraly, Vice President of Humana Corporation and another plaintiff, has been known to threaten to shoot people in the head. Thomas used to say that he'd laugh as the brains ran out of the shattered skull.

Michael submitted polite postcards as “evidence” of some type even though the postcards were approved by the police. His paperwork implied that a gift of my grandfather's religious poetry to Thomas Kiraly was extortion. It also suggested that I'd hacked Amazon Corporation to get at Kenneth Kiraly, architect of the Amazon Kindle.

Michael's latest communications demand that I not speak to the church mentioned above. I have every intention of doing so regardless of any future restraining orders. I'll explain here for the benefit of any judges who may read this.

If a restraining order is issued ordering me not to speak with the church again, I'll continue speaking with them on the grounds that they've invited me to do so. The conflict between the church's offer and the court order should lead to the publicity that these cases need.

There's quite a bit more. There's a document set about the Kiraly Cases. Disorganized so far but it will improve over time. People can find a PDF on my websites. Which Michael Bonetto is demanding that I take down or redact. That's another odd part.

Eventually the case material alone will reach 500 pages. This may make an interesting movie. Which James Kiraly and Michael Bonetto will try to stop I assume.


(a) OPC may wish to convey to his clients that they have no leverage.

(b) OPC is fighting to help an abuser, James Kiraly of Pismo Beach, stop the writing of a book. An abuser who has lied repeatedly.

You'll say that there's more to Long Cause than this. OPC will say, “What lies? They feel threatened. That's sufficient reason for CLETS.” Whether or not the two of you are right, I can make use of these facts elsewhere.

(c) No judge can order what the Kiralys wish. Am I correct or incorrect? What the judge will order will only ensure that the matter will continue.

James and Grace Kiraly are elderly. They have perhaps 5 to 10 years to live. Probably less, in James's case; he's had about three strokes and shows signs of dementia.

Do the Kiralys wish to relax on vacations etc. ? Or do James and Grace prefer to make trouble and face the consequences of their decisions even though they have nothing to gain by this?

(d) There will be no panicked agreement to a stipulation on the day before Long Cause. Not after the money that's been spent. The notion is ludicrous.

(e) Regardless of Long Cause, work will continue. I have multiple legal protections and the Kiralys can't contravene them. We've been over this. My guess is that OPC knows it too. He needs to explain it clearly to James, Grace, Thomas, and Kenneth.

(f) Websites will continue. If possible, social media will be part of this. Discussions with child abuse groups, spousal abuse groups, and churches. Lawful and appropriate phone calls.

Research related to the Kiraly Cases and future litigation. Research related to biographies of the Kiralys, which I'm absolutely entitled to write. Research related to books about the Kiraly Cases. Research that James, Grace, Thomas, and Kenneth Kiraly can't stop.

(g) No restraining orders will prevent me from communicating with the particular church cited by Michael since the church has offered to assist me.

(h) I feel that Bar Association actions may be worth some effort. State level actions are promising. Torts actions based on abuse of process are also a possibility.

I'm in this for the long haul. Do the Kiralys wish to continue this farce despite the fact they've already lost?